My son thinks I am "uncool". He thinks my husband is "cool" but I am apparently the old mom who just doesn't get it. It shouldn't bother me at all except that I have been forgetting what I used to be like. With an upcoming birthday and a complete confusion on the future, I have been feeling old and uncool. Until this weekend.
We had a visit from a friend we have not seen in about 14 years. Back when my husband was a resident in Detroit, our closest friends were T and D. We dealt with the the trials of the hospital, the ugliness of Detroit, as well as laughed at the characters, enjoyed the concerts and even vacationed in San Francisco together. After 5 years we all went our separate ways and unfortunately just didn't keep in touch.
It was terrific seeing T. We spent the entire day, night and early morning drinking, laughing, reminiscing. He helped me remember that I used to be full of energy, busy, fun. At one point he told our son that we were totally cool, back then and now (ah that was without a prompt). My son rebuked. But no T. persisted. Not only is your mom cool, she is spectacular. Did you hear that blog-o-sphere? I am SPECTACULAR.
Most likely that comment did not change my son's way of thinking, and T. did have several cocktails by then, but it renewed and revitalized me. Why can't I be just as entertaining and energetic and interesting as I was? Why not refrain from the nervousness, the fear and the complaining? It's a new day and I am feeling good.
I miss our old friends and look forward to seeing them again soon.
First of all, you ARE full of energy, busy, and fun NOW. You also happen to be a mom who carries the burden of worry, who is also the disciplinarian, cook, shopper, huge money maker when you want to be, cleaner, keeping the whole extended family happy, scheduler, transporter, volunteer etc., etc. Sometimes these extra things cramp our style, but you can still pull it off, you are still cool.
ReplyDeleteaww - keep those compliments coming :-)
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